Since he started his YouTube channel back in 2009, Ricky Dillon has been bombarded with questions surrounding his sexuality because for some reason viewers have needed a label to watch a YouTuber. Well, Ricky decided he was ready to answer these questions in a video so massively brave and honest we couldn’t help but tear up; “I would be closest to asexual”.
Ricky mentions that he’s seen comments on his videos in the past trying to label him as “gay” and accusing him of “hiding in the closet”, but it’s just not true because he feels that he doesn’t “have a sexual attraction to anyone”. One of the most important elements of Ricky’s video is that he feels uncomfortable using the term “coming out” as “this could change in a couple of years… I could fall in love with somebody for real”.
For viewers unsure of what it means to be asexual, Ricky breaks it down;
“I can look at a girl, I can look at a guy and I don’t feel a sexual attraction like most people do. Whether you’re straight, gay, bisexual, if you’re one of those things you have a sexual attraction toward someone. I don’t feel that. I don’t have a sexual drive, which probably sounds crazy, but I’ve wondered about it for a long time.”
Whilst it may be simple to accept the idea of asexuality, some viewers felt concerned that Ricky might suffer from loneliness, but he addresses this as well in his sexuality video; “I know that seems crazy and sad to people, but I’m very happy to be alone. I like independence. I like doing my own thing. I don’t look at someone and want them… I am not turned on by a naked human body. NOTHING turns me on”.
Even though Ricky thinks asexuality “would be the closest thing to the way he feels”, he admits that he didn’t come out sooner because “it’s very uncommon… It’s pretty rare and not really talked about… If I knew what I was, I would have come out ages ago”. With so few asexual role models in the media, Ricky has received an overwhelming surge of praise and love from both the YouTube community and his fanbase, with comments on his video from the likes of Joey Graceffa, Tyler Oakley, Colleen Ballinger and Mikey Murphy.